The word perfect is an adjective that is defined as 1. having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. 2. free from any flaw or defect in condition or quality; faultless. 3. precisely accurate, exact. These days it seems like we are obsessed with perfection. Finding the perfect career. Buying the perfect house and car. Finding the perfect spouse. Being the perfect parent. Having the perfect body, complexion, outfit, and accessories. The list is never ending. How do we know when we have reached perfection? Is there a secret book out there that has the rules or guidelines for becoming perfect? Is there some sort of standard unit of measurement? More importantly, why are we so driven to achieve perfection?
There is nothing wrong with striving to become a better person. We all have areas of our life that could stand some improvement whether it be working on our health or working for a promotion so we can earn more to pay for that fabulous home and car. Having something to work toward is what keeps us going. The goal is ever changing and can swing from one area of life to another. The problem comes when we forget that we are human, therefore innately flawed, and allow our flaws to embarrass us or convince us we should try to imitate someone else. Every person has something to offer. No matter how peculiar their idiosyncrasies might be, having the ability to accept and love oneself for who they are at any given moment in time, is, in my opinion, as close to perfection as we can achieve here on Earth.
Why is it so difficult for so many of us to find that self acceptance? What habits do we adults have that keep us from loving ourselves? What are we modeling for our children in our daily lives that plant these seeds of doubt in our children. I would venture to say that we are doing so unknowingly, not realizing the damage that we’re doing, not only to ourselves, but our children and the future of society. My hope is that we can get to the bottom of it and educate ourselves so we can stop this cycle and end things like bullying, violence, self destructive behavior, and eating disorders, etc. while enjoying a happier life.